The missing factor that’s keeping many people from leveling up their life is self-discipline. They know what they need to do but they don’t do it consistently.

Whether they get distracted, talk themselves out of it, or can’t find the motivation to take action, a lack of self-discipline leaves so much potential on the table.

But I think self-discipline is a bit misunderstood. It’s not staying consistent at all costs like most people think...

I disagree with the idea that there are ‘non-negotiables’ in life. True self-discipline is about consistently making the choice that most serves you and want you want most in life, even when you don’t feel like it. 

When you think of self-discipline, you probably relate it with having self-control. But as it turns out that’s just one of 3 sources for discipline.

But starting there, using self-control to be disciplined is the approach of using your willpower. It’s about consciously making yourself do something. It’s an effortful push get yourself into action and often works against the grain of your life.

Which leads us to the second source for discipline - environment. This is the natural flow that life is pulling you toward. When uninterrupted, your environment will guide you to wherever it is designed to take you. There are tactical things you can do to your environment to change where this force pulls you, which ultimately makes consistency more or less difficult depending on the design.

And the 3rd source of discipline is identity, which is basically your personal set of beliefs. Identity is a specific form of environment but rather than it being externally driven, it’s internally produced. Your beliefs shape your choices unconsciously and guides your actions. When doing something violates a belief you have, it creates resistance. When something is in alignment with a belief, it becomes easy and automatic. 

So if you want to be more disciplined, you need to think beyond willpower.

First, find ways to shift your environment to support positive action... And second, upgrade your belief system so that you genuinely see yourself as an accountable action taker in everything you do.

If you want support in doing both of those, that’s what the 21 Day Super Habits Challenge is all about. You complete a 21 day subconscious priming audio program called Discipline on Demand to transform your mindset, and you install a new life-operating system that shifts your environment and support you in being more consistent with you health habits and more productive overall.

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I want to help a lot of people, and make a real impact in this world. I want to be a force for good that encourages, inspires, and leads others to maximize their potential in service of others.

I have a feeling you’re following along because you want to do the same :)

Abraham Maslow defines purpose as the combination of two things: The pursuit of one’s own potential to become all that we can be (self-actualization) and to use your gifts and talents in service of the world (to help others). We all share the same purpose, but it’s the application of our help and the direction of our growth that varies.

I’m in the process of becoming a world changemaker myself, and having thought a lot about it I want to share the progression everyone needs to go through to maximize their contribution to the world.

And it all starts with self-improvement.

Your capacity to impact others is directly correlated to the size of your self-growth.

Your impact is limited to lower levels when you’re stuck, and it expands when you expand. Many people could multiply their impact simply by improving themselves, their processes, their energy levels, and their discipline so that they have more to give and can give more effectively.

Beyond the self-improvement work, then there’s a progression in how your contribution can be expressed into the world. Making a difference starts with making better choices and leading a more purposeful life-style. It’s shopping more sustainably, incorporating more mindful practices, being more tolerant and accepting of others, incorporating philanthropy in your career, and modeling what it means to live a purposeful life.

Then after that, you’re in a position to give more to causes you care about. Of course this includes your money, but it also includes your time, talent, networks, advocacy, and energy. Most people think to start their giving journey here but the extent of it is limited by the self-improvement and embodied lifestyle that comes before it.

And finally, once you feel like you’re truly giving yourself to causes you care about, now it’s time to lead your own initiatives - Fundraisers, movements, communities, projects. You begin to enroll others and offer them opportunities to live and give for purpose. 

To summarize, this is the simple progression: Pursue your own self-growth so that it’s not a limiting factor. Live in such a way that incorporates impact into your everyday choices. Give your gifts, talents, and resources to causes and others in need. And finally lead your own initiatives that invites other people to join you in this work.

That’s how you make a difference. That’s how you grow your contribution to the world. And that’s what you’re already doing, starting here and investing in your self-growth.

If there’s someone in your life who is making a big difference in the world, send them this episode to acknowledge them and teach them how to expand on that even further!

I’m not perfect at it, but something I try to carry into everything I do is to come from a place of service. I find that I’m at my best when I’m helpful and I’ve found life is most fulfilling when I’m contributing to the well-being of others.

Something that’s an obvious expression of service is sharing - Sharing your resources, sharing your time, sharing your network, sharing your experience. All of it makes a difference and helps the next person on their way.

But not mentioned in that list is sharing your challenges, obstacles, and setbacks. And typically what happens when you share what you’re struggling with is it creates value in two ways:

First is it gives someone else the chance to tap into the joy and fulfillment of being able to help. It’s hard to be helpful if you don’t know how to help, and being vulnerable to bring up your shortcomings invites others to step in and support.

But also, when you share your challenges you create a setting for direct and relatable conversation that becomes more helpful for others. Especially in a group setting, when you speak and ask for help it could seem like it’s selfish.

And I get the argument because you’re asking for people’s time to help you with a problem you’re facing...

But just as significantly, you’re also bringing to light a topic that many people probably see themselves within. This means that they benefit because it gives an important conversation a voice and provides an example that they can personally relate with.

This is the classic example of ‘the question no one is asking’ even though it’s on everyone’s mind. It’s saying “I don’t understand” and asking for clarification on something that a lot of other people probably didn’t understand either.

There are direct ways to share what we have to offer the world with others, and I encourage you to keep doing them to maximize your impact and fulfillment, but perhaps a change in perspective will help you see that you’re also being of service when you’re getting help yourself.

One of the ultimate ends for everything we do to improve our life is to create more happiness. I think that we’re in desperate need for more happiness in the world, and unfortunately it has been harder to come by recently than usual.

But I have a renewed hope that we can right the ship after learning more about Arthur Brooks and his work about happiness. He says that happiness comes from 3 things that matter most - Enjoyment, satisfaction, and meaning.

First let’s talk about enjoyment. It means that we experience positive emotions in the act of doing thing in our lives. Quality time with people brings us joy. Making progress on something and seeing improvement brings us joy. Having fun and experiencing new things brings us joy.

Then there’s satisfaction. This is also known as experiencing contentment. It’s having a sense of gratification that you’re living a good life, that you’re applying yourself and making the most of opportunities, and that you’re grounded in what you have rather than lusting for what you don’t. Surprisingly, contentment also comes from overcoming challenges in your life.

And last is meaning. This means that what you do has a greater purpose to it. Like sculpting a new life as you raise a child, impacting a cause through your work, and curiously exploring your faith or self. Without meaning, what you do doesn’t have any weight to it - life is just happening but it’s not satiating your soul.

The things that bring us enjoyment, satisfaction, and meaning. Those are the things that matter most.

This expands into a common theory about happiness, that Brooks also talks about, which is called “eudaimonic happiness”. It’s based on living out the virtues that you’re most proud to embody. This contrasts with another form of happiness called “hedonic happiness” which is rooted in experiencing pleasure.

We can sense the difference in depth when something gives us temporary happiness (like buying new things or indulging in unhealthy sensory experiences) versus when it gives us lasting happiness (that makes us feel genuinely and authentically good about who we are).

So as much as you’re able, lean toward eudaimonia and live a virtuous life to experience true happiness. And that comes from the things that matter most - Enjoyment, satisfaction, and meaning.

For those of us who want a huge, change-making life full of rich experiences and personal achievement… Sometimes it feels like it’s so far away. We look at our current level (our finances, health, and impact) and see all of the ground that needs to be made up to make it our reality.

The sheer overwhelm of the gap causes many to give up on pursuing it in the first place, and rather than passionately chasing the big life they desire they change their expectations and settle for something more realistic.

The truth is we’re closer to achieving our goals than we think. That’s not to say that it’s all right around the corner, or that it won’t take hard work, but that the likelihood of you achieving your dreams is higher than you might think.

This idea makes me think of the famous Bill Gates quote “Most people overestimate what they can do in one year and underestimate what they can do in ten years.” It’s a direct commentary on this idea that we make more progress over a longer time frame than we realize.

Ed Mylett talks about this a lot too. He says that having big seemingly unattainable goals isn’t a vision problem, it’s a depth perception problem. He believes that we naturally see things off in the distance as further away from us than they actually are, and that our perception misrepresents what it actually is.

So what is it that you want and see on the distant horizon? Is it more influence in your work? Is it growing your impact in your career? Is it getting to the weight and physical fitness that you feel most healthy? Is it getting past all of the grunt work so that you can focus on really high-leverage things that make a tangible difference in the world?

It’s all closer than you’ve been leading yourself to believe.

While we might be overestimating the size of the gap, it certainly doesn’t traverse itself. We must take daily steps forward and if we do not stop, we’re going to end much further down the path then we ever would have expected.

Consistency is the key to unlocking your biggest goals. And you’re capable of achieving them! So what’s the one step you need to take everyday to continue making forward progress on it?

If you aren’t as consistent and disciplined as you’d like to be, and you find yourself consistently falling short because of it, there are 9 Super Habits that help you get big results with the least amount of effort possible. Click here to learn what they are!

In our efforts to change our life and change the world, we want to invest in things that give us good results. We want to actually improve the quality of our health and relationships. We want to finally conquer that one thing that has been holding us back.

But without the glamorized association we have with the idea of results, that reflects the ideal situation we’re pursuing, let’s talk about what results objectively are.

Results are just realities.

If we’re looking to generate a certain result it means that we’re hoping to shape our reality a certain way. What we’re doing right now is giving us certain results, which is reflected in the reality we’re experiencing.

And without the emotional charge usually connected to our results, we can see how it’s perfectly embedded in our reality. Our weight, strength, physical shape and fitness is just the reality of our personal health. The amount of money we make is just our present reality, which dictates the lifestyle we can afford to live.

If you’re happy with different elements of your current reality that means you’re achieving favorable results, and if you’re unhappy with different components of your current reality then you’re creating negative results.

As we know, if we want new results, we need to take new actions. It’s by taking new actions that we get new results.

What taking action functionally does is it disrupts the current pattern and causes our reality to change. Taking action to eat healthier and workout more will likely change the reality of your current weight and health. Working more hours and on higher quality things will grow your business, or position you for a raise, changing the reality of the amount of money flowing into your bank account.

Some actions are intentional to shift reality in a certain way, some actions are completely unconscious and undoing your work by pulling your reality back to how it used to be, and some actions are taken by other people that then cause shifts in your reality.

But ultimately when we’re trying to improve elements about our lives - to improve our health, daily productivity, mindset, the quality of our relationships, compensation, impact, whatever it is - What we really want is to be experience a new reality that we perceive as better and more fulfilling than the current one.

And while a 'changing of reality' is always happening on its own, it’s best to not leave it up to chance. We can control the direction of our results and reality shifts. And that’s where taking intentional high-leverage action comes in.

If you’re looking at your current reality in your health habits, the amount you get done in a day, or the life balance you have, you’re just a few new actions away from getting new results and experiencing more enjoyable realities.

And that’s what the 9 Super Habits are all about - helping you build the foundation of health, productivity, and mindset that sets you up to succeed in everything else.

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Last week I was getting dinner at a restaurant with a friend and I became aware of some of the underlying beliefs that we have. While there are little consequences to these examples, in truly questioning them we get to see the power beliefs have and how it shapes our lives in more meaningful ways.

Here are two examples.

First, someone walked into the restaurant to place the order at the front. There was no line, but rather than walking straight up to the cashier they rerouted their path through the barriers that normally contain the line to end at the waitress.

Looking directly at it, this makes no sense. Our brains are hardwired to conserve energy so adding extra steps contradicts our natural state. This means that something larger had to override it. In this case, it was a belief that in order to be a cooperative member of society we need to wait our turn and take our place in line. It’s just a social convention, and in this case the belief influenced the behavior.

Another example was when someone’s fork hit the floor. They didn’t really think about what to do next, they stood up and grabbed another fork. At some point in their past they learned that it’s unsanitary to eat with a utensil that touches the floor. They incorporated that belief. And their unconscious behavior flowed from that belief.

However some of us might think about the “5 second rule”. This suggests that we don’t have the same belief or same strength of belief in that core lesson. There's individual variability. This demonstrates how our beliefs are all integrated in unique and personalized ways.

With those examples, maybe it’s more apparent to see how beliefs about “money being evil”, “it’s hard to eat healthy”, “I’m not good at public speaking”, or other beliefs like that would impact our daily behavior (and from that behavior how it would influence our results).

This is why it’s so important for us to increase our level of consciousness. Rather than being at the mercy of these unconscious scripts, we can question them and choose to do something different that might better serve us. It helps us to break the pattern and in doing so, gives us the opportunity to create new results.