“Every day is a fresh start.”

It’s kind of crazy thinking about what a day even is. Our days are dictated by our planets’ rotation. Creating alternating periods of light and dark based on when it is facing the sun. We have evolved to work within these natural parameters. As much as we say time is a convention and man made concept, there is some truth to the natural cycles we experience because of it.

Every day is the beginning of a new cycle, “every day is a fresh start.”

So what can we do as a fresh start? Well, on a daily basis we get inundated with layers. Some negative layers caused by stress, labor and tedious tasks. As well as some positive layers due to great moments, big wins, and growing relationships. When we wake up every morning we can shake off these layers and build our environment from the ground up.

But what about those positive layers that you enjoy so much? Well that’s where a good morning practice of expressing gratitude comes in. Gratitude allows you to reflect on previous happenings, paint them in a positive and appreciative light, and coat yourself with that first initial layer that will set the tone for the rest of the day.

How privileged are we that we to even have another day? Let’s make the most of this new chance and fresh start.

Heather Monahan’s story about discovering and rediscovering confidence is something we all can relate to. She has a philosophy about confidence that positions it as a dynamic quality. Everything you do is either adding to or taking from your confidence, or as she says it, are you creating confidence or chipping away at it.

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If you missed it, definitely go back and check out Heather and my SISD conversation.

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The power of your internal messaging is a fascinating part about our psyche is that it is responsive to the thoughts we feed it and produces outcomes as a result of that input. It’s similar to the idea of when we force a smile we still release positive neurotransmitters that then contribute in lifting our mood. So, knowing that our brains are strongly influenced by our internal messaging, what can we do about it?

Well, we can control it, which takes me back to this point about my cold that I have been experiencing. Notice how I am not calling myself sick. I am not sick. I do not feel sick, and I am not being kept from doing exactly what I want to do. What you are hearing in my voice is the effect the cold is having on my presentation, which sure is inconvenient, but it doesn’t hold any real power over me. 

With this messaging, I am choosing to frame the symptoms I am experiencing in a way that is under my control. In doing so, my psyche is answering that prompt, realizing my body overall is unaffected, and is helping me to stay motivated and on task, with high-energy.

 A powerful example shared in a previous tip was the way Josh Perry talked about when he had brain tumors. When he spoke about it, internally and externally, he called them “the” brain tumors not “my” brain tumors, because he didn’t want to get complacent in accepting them as part of his being. 

It takes time, but being intentional about the messaging we feed our brains has the opportunity for great downstream impact in our psychology.

Let’s hear from one of the greatest minds the world has ever produced, the legendary Oprah Winfrey. In the scope of everything Oprah has done, what she’s accomplished, where she’s been, how she’s failed and how she’s succeeded, she presents a really simple message that is fundamental to her process.

"The moment you figure out what you are supposed to be doing, the sooner you are able to go about the business of doing that. The way through the challenge is to get still and ask yourself what is the next right move. Not think about all of the.. What is the next right move? And then from that space, make the next right move, and the next right move. And not to be overwhelmed by it, because you know your life is bigger than one moment. You know you are not defined by what somebody says is a failure for you, because failure is just there to point you in a different direction".

Isn’t that fascinating? Even the woman, who has done more than all of us combined, goes back to the question, “What can I do right now in this moment?”. It’s so natural to get caught up in the long tail strategy, forecasting projections, of whatever we’re working on. Fundamentally, it’s about decision making and trusting that your own internal guiding system knows what to do. If you continue making the next right move, you’ll find yourself exactly where you’re meant to be.

Recently, I started working closely with the Greatness Collective, which is all about empowering changemakers by giving them the tools and resources they need to be socially impactful. I really align with their mission statement, "Be, Do, Give, and want to break down each of the Greatness Collective’s pillars one by one".

"Be". Before you can be impactful in the way you help others, you need to realize your own potential by impacting yourself. It’s all about filling up your own bucket before pouring into someone else’s. At it’s core “Be” is personal development. It’s appreciating your own worth and value so that you can apply it in effective ways.

Which leads to the second part, "do". Nothing gets done without action, and sometimes the barriers to enter are a bit beyond your means or outside of your scope. We can start small and build up, and use the resources around you to do more with less.

Last, and the most important, is "give". The truest form of humility is service. In this shared world, it is our responsibility to contribute and one of the most gratifying things you can ever do. Poetically, it all comes full circle, because when you give you receive, which then compounds and allows you to be, do, and give all over again.

In this conversation, I’d be remiss not to talk about abundance. We live in a place of more than enough. There’s more resources, more love, more time, more wealth, and more opportunity than we can even fathom. Tapping into a small percent of that will result in very full life. However, this abundance needs some direction, and with the right mindset we can all begin leveraging it.

“Do good and good will come to you”. When we put a certain energy into this world, it brings aligning energy closer to us in our lives. It’s a premise that the law of attraction is built on, and it’s something that is within our conscious control.

That’s why the mindset is everything. We all evolved as humans with survival of the fittest in mindset, which means that we have competition built into our core. The implied part of competing for resources means that we believe there isn’t enough to go around, which means we need to secure them for ourselves. This is a scarcity mindset and it attracts more scarcity into our lives.

On the contrary, a growth mindset is probably a better application of our energy because we live in a different world than we evolved from. There is more than enough in this world, due to the fact that resources can be shared and not independently consumed. To tie it back into the quote, “Do good and good will come to you", by engaging in a positive act, you facilitate the flow of resources and energy that provides for those around you, who in turn become more able and willing to reciprocate and propagate that flow.  So the simple act of doing good to others will bring good upon yourself.

Recently, I had a very powerful realization, and after thinking about it and practicing it over the last few days, I have decided that it will be one of my three priority focus points for 2020. It’s around the idea of making things better than you found them. I’ll get into more detail about why that is so important, but first I want to explain what I experienced.  

I was at the airport, and had just gotten through the metal detector in security. As I was gathering my things on the other side, I saw that there was a line of empty bins crowding up the conveyor belt that caused bins to get bumped and spill over personal belongings, including my own. So, I took a bit of time to stack all the extra bins and get them out of the way. I quickly noticed that my small act improved the experience of those that came after me. As I was thinking about my impact, I went and got a breakfast burrito before my flight. When I went to throw out the wrapper, I noticed there was another wrapper next to the trash. So, I picked it up and put it in the trash. There was an odd sense of fulfillment knowing that my presence improved the quality of the area. Having taken, both, small and big moments since to leave things better than I found them, it’s something I want to prioritize in my life.

But, let’s make a really important distinction. It’s not about making things better than you found them, it’s about leaving things better than you found them. I can’t control the people that came after me who leave their bins out to cause another backup, or the person who lazily tosses their wrapper toward the trash. You must not feel responsible for creating a lasting change in areas in which you are not responsible, and I think that’s the biggest deterrent people experience when thinking about getting more involved.

At it’s core, it’s about adding value in everything you do, and while you’re there, whether it’s in a conversation, on a project at work, or in an airport, you can find a way to do something meaningful in every action you take.

The concept today is the fundamental piece to Brant Pinvidic’s book, The 3 Minute Rule. It is his WHAC method, which when used right, helps you communicate the value you offer in a way that is optimized for it to be received. What is the WHAC method?

Brant Pinvidic stated, "There's four questions to build your presentation, or the first three minutes of your pitch. And it is, what is it? How does it work? Are you sure? And, can you do it? It's in that order. What is it, is literally what is it. Something that states what it is your offering, what can you provide, what it is your offering, and what is it you want to do. Right? And then, how does it work. Break it down into simple things. How does it work? How do you operate? How do you do that? I understand what it is now, how does it work? When you go to the are you sure, that is now where you can bring in those facts, figures, logic, and reason to explain and validate the what it is and how it works, and that this is actually real. Are you sure this actually works that way? And from there, you go to how you do it. Cause I'm sold! I'm 95 percent of the way there. Now, I want to know how I can get it. And, for most people, that's a problem that's solvable".

W stands for What is it? H is How does it work? A is are you sure? And C is Can you do it. The order is important because it sets the stage for the pitch, and leverages approach motivation to extend our natural decision making cycles.

We’ve all heard about this in one form or another. It’s about taking 24 hours to evaluate how you feel about a situation before reacting or taking action on it. The most common application of this that I heard growing up was if you’re upset. Before confronting a friend, or sending that email, we were told to take 24 hours to see if we still feel so strongly. At that point, it makes sense to send it.

The concept makes total sense! Our emotions can cloud our judgment and make us act impulsively, overriding our best intentions and doing more harm than is necessary. It works for the same reason that goal setting and habit formation should be done in an unbiased state. Making decisions in an unemotional state allows you to be sure you are putting your energy where you want. It’s about being deliberate.

Well, recently I had the opposite happen, but the 24 hour rule still applies. I had a business idea and a mental plan about how to execute it. Instead of riding the momentum and staying up all night building it out, I waited a day to see if it was something I still wanted to add to my plate. As it turns out, I am still super excited about it and took the next steps writing protocols for an experiment to validate my intuition.

It’s a self-improvement tool, and if all things go well in these next steps I might be asking for your feedback and thoughts shortly! But for now, make sure you are practicing the 24 hour rule in all emotional states to make sure you are acting with your purest intentions in mind.