Self Improvement Daily Podcast

Manu Goswami talks about all of the great things that come from taking a phone call.

"Today I want to share something that I have incorporated in my life that has returned more than I ever could have asked for. As simple as it is, it is often overlooked by people who spend the time doing it. It is really simple. Take a five minute phone call just because. Everyday I try to set aside the time to take a call with someone in my network and I'm usually surprised by how it went. This helps me give some kind of advise, and these conversations keep me really sharp and to the point. Also, there is nothing like human connection, and getting on the phone portrays so much more than commenting on social media ever could. If you are not confident taking phone calls, then that is even more of a reason to just do it. Just like creating your own content, the only way to get past that fear is just try it once".

Success is relative and having a good perspective on the status of your life bring more fulfillment than you could imagine. A famous monk and influential figure, Guar Gopal Das, put perspective into perspective in this message.

"Whether you drive a Volkswagen or you drive a Bentley, the road remains the same doesn't it? Whether you speak on a Samsung or whether you speak on a Iphone X, whoever is calling remains the same isn't it? Whether you are flying economy or you are flying business, the destination remains the same isn't it? Whether you are wearing a simple fast track or you are wearing an Omega Rolex, the time remains the same isn't it? Its quiet amazing how we work ourselves up so much with increasing the standard of living without increasing the standard of our life".

Have a fair understanding of the privileges that you have in your life. You can gain this understanding by expressing gratitude, doing community service, or practicing empathy.

I am in progress right now with a big move and going through a major cleanse myself. I can relate to how difficult it is to get rid of certain things, but I can also attest to the great feeling a fresh start brings.  

So, take time to simplify your life. This comes most obviously in the form of material goods and excess possessions that you don’t really need, but it also comes in your approach to what you need. One of my favorite lines from Darius Rucker’s song "alright" where he sings, “I got all I need, and that’s alright by me”, really embodies this thought.  

But, what does simplifying your life actually do? First, it decreases your overall stimulation and allows you to live in the moment and enjoy things around you.  From a more physiological stand point, reducing over-stimulation can increase concentration, decrease stress levels, and help you sleep better.  

Simplify your life today by cleaning up a little and identifying the essentials. With current technology, nostalgic possessions can remain a part of your life forever if you take a picture of it before discarding it. Keep those memories in a tidy place on your computer where it does not overwhelm you. You will soon get over the sadness and realize that a weight has been lifted and you can better focus on the things you want to do

Each and every one of us has had the next billion dollar idea that never came to fruition, or that job we never applied for.  Imagine where you would be if you had just committed to trying it.

In my experience, committing fully to something is best accomplished through accountability. Personally, I respond best to interpersonal accountability, which involves telling someone else about my commitment. Studies show that you are 65% more likely to stick to something if you told someone about your commitment, and 95% more likely to stick to it if you have a weekly follow up with that person. In Darren Hardy’s book, The Compound Effect, he talked about finding a peak performance partner that you follow up with every week.  

So, create interpersonal accountability because it forces you to commit, and there are a few things you can do today to make it happen. First, make a goal sheet with your weekly goals and share it with someone else. You can also make that someone else your Peak Performance Partner. Lastly, you can share your ambitions on social media or in social media groups. 

There is an unwarranted stigma around this next tip that I want to address. Too many people are afraid to ask for help. I don’t know if this is out of pride, fear, or something else, but the sooner you get comfortable asking for help the sooner you will benefit from the value around you.  

Many people view asking for help as a weakness because it implies that there is a deficiency in your capabilities, when in reality, it’s usually viewed as a strength.  It requires a certain confidence to ask for help, and people appreciate that. Additionally, acknowledging your own limitations makes you seem more human, and people can relate to that.

So the next time you are struggling with something, mental, physical, emotional, spiritual, seek the opinion of someone you respect, and ask them for advice.  Not only will you probably get some useful advice that helps your situation, but you will actively be growing the relationship by laying a foundation of trust and reciprocity.   

Beyond that, asking for help also brings others happiness, as well as increases productivity. So give it a try, and ask someone you trust to help you out.  I think you’ll be surprised by their willingness to offer their services!

I recently learned about If-Then planning by way of Mel Robbins, who is a brilliant and practical motivational speaker and educator. She helps people identify negative behaviors and gives them the tools to replace them with positive behaviors. The If-Then planning technique is perfect to use on behaviors you know you don’t want to engage in.

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To reiterate, Mel emphasizes the importance of planning by writing down how you are going to handle certain situations when they present themselves. Go ahead and try it by identifying one behavior you’d like to avoid doing, and write down all of the triggers that start that behavior. Then, commit to an alternative behavior to do.

I want to set straight a theory that has been mentioned in a few different places, and share why and how it can be best incorporated into your activity. The theory is called Deliberate Practice, and was first introduced by Anders Ericcson in his book, Peak: Secrets from the New Science of Expertise. 'Deliberate Practice' is essentially the process required to become a master at something.  

This theory is in contention with the 10,000 hours rule shared by Malcolm Gladwell in his equally impressive book, "Outliers". The key difference between the two lies in focusing on the quality of the practice, not the quantity.  

Ultimately, the key differences in deliberate practice come down to 5 things. 

1) Motivation. You must have the desire to get better. 

2) Setting a plan of specific and realistic goals that progress in difficulty. 

3) Practicing at an intensity beyond your comfort zone. 

4) Consistent and prolonged effort. 

5) Receiving immediate feedback so that you can apply the necessary changes right away.  

The best example used in the book was how Steve Faloon went from being able to memorize 7 numbers at a time to remembering 82 numbers through deliberate practice. Not only is this an effective method, but it pushes people beyond perceived human limits!

Simon Sinek has the ability to engage with every person in the audience at the time. Lets hear from Simon as he talks about his best practices to starting a presentation.

"Presenting is like a journey. There are ups and downs, but there is a place we want people to get to. Whether it is to inspire action, or to learn something, or to perceive the world differently. We have to start with that end goal in mind, so that all of the pieces move towards that end goal. The structure is really important. How are you going to start? What is that frame that will get you going? There is no right way to this, but what I have found is to start with some sort of story that captures the idea that you are going to be presenting about. We can start of with something as basic and quite boring as, Imagine if you were to sit down with someone in a meeting and they hung on to every word you said. If someone shows up with the desire to give and idea, people are much more receptive".

Start with the end in mind, and tie it into a story.

Do you spend your time doing things you are already good at? If your first thought was no, then pay attention to this video. Stephanie Hall shares the details of an interesting study and talks about the importance of making the most of what you got.

"Hey everyone. We are going to talk about operating based on your strengths. According to studies done by Don Clipton, people who leverage their strengths are six time as likely to be engaged at work. When your work environment enables you to use your strengths, you offer value in what comes natural to you, and success is sure to follow sit as you will excel in your roll which leads to empowerment, and maximizing your true full potential. When you know what your talents are, you are able to refine your skills everyday while you find joy in what you are doing. When people try to build up their weaknesses, it only leads to added stress and frustration. So, instead, I would encourage you to uncover your strengths and leverage at least one of them on an daily basis to see how fulfilling it is to channel your efforts into a way that comes natural to you".

We all could use a bit more of leveraging our strengths.

If you want to or are learning a new language, use the app Duolingo.  

This app was created by Louis Von Ahn, a brilliant professor and businessman at Carnegie Mellon University. He is probably best known as the inventor of reCaptcha and how he began using the time people spend verifying their identity for purchases to digitize books and street signs.  

Duolingo was built on the premise of giving access to language and motivating people to return. It’s UX reflects that by creating milestones, maintaining a streak, and gamifying the process in whole. This app is designed to be used intermittently during down time as a social media replacement, and can easily be incorporated into your routine if you have the desire to do it.  

I am a huge advocate for Duolingo because I was able to advance past Italian 1 in college after using it for only 2 months, and went on to set the curve in Italian 2 because I was over prepared by the app. I can attest to the habit forming capabilities of it and was truly motivated to learn the language.

So apple, android, or whatever you may have, Duolingo is in the app store and available now, and is currently offering 30 different languages. Give it a try and watch your downtime become seamlessly more productive studying a foreign language.