For whatever reason, this idea makes me shutter, and because of that discomfort I’m choosing to explore it. The word is entitlement. Basically, entitlement means that you have rights to something, that by the nature of how it exists you get to choose what you do with it. While this has been normalized in more of a legal sense when talking about health care, property, etc., the entitlement I'm exploring is personal entitlement. It's the perception that you are owed something, whether that be happiness, wealth, or whatever it is you want more of.

This is a dangerous approach to have. When you have a strong entitled belief about something in your life there are 2 major consequences: First is the egocentrism. You view things as revolving around you and you relate everything back to yourself in almost a narcissistic way, and it affects the way you can exist with others.  Then second is more of the mindset it brings. Entitlement breeds complacency. If you feel like you have rights to something, or that you’re owed something, you’re much less likely to work hard for it because you feel like you don’t have to. Then when you don’t get it you experience an inner-conflict that makes you feel like you’re being undeservedly punished, which escalates your perceived entitlement.

Given all of that, it’s important to recognize that every single one of us is very fortunate. Having grown accustomed to that good fortune, we may live in a way that makes us feel somewhat entitled to that standard of living. That’s where I invite you to view your circumstances as privilege, not entitlement. Privilege allows you to relate your personal situation with others. It takes a more comprehensive view about how you fit into the world, and ultimately, allows you to have a more positive relationship with the blessings in your life.

Anyway, I know you didn’t ask, but those are my thoughts on entitlement.

So often we talk about how to reframe negative events in our lives so that we can see them from a different perspective, and ultimately relate with them better. What’s fascinating is how many people (including myself) don’t give themselves credit for the great things happening in their life today. When it comes to taking 100% responsibility for your life, it means seeing yourself as the epicenter of the good, the bad, and the ugly.

As for the good stuff - The wins you have in your career, the relationships you’ve nurtured, the great ideas you’ve had and the incredible successes you’ve achieved, you earned it! You and only you are the one that made that happen for you.

You might want to take some time to sit in that idea like I have because it’s really uncomfortable to do. When I accomplish my goals, or reach major milestones, I have a tendency to write it off and attribute it to my circumstances and not give myself credit for the things I’ve done to earn it. What that has done is it has created a dynamic where I haven’t grown with my achievements, and therefore feel a sense of inadequacy around the things I should be celebrating.

And that’s what I wanted to tell you today. You earned it! You’re a stud and you’re crushing it right now. Don’t talk yourself out of it, let that feeling of earning it fuel you to keep on going. Because while you put in the work and earned it all for yourself, you’re only as good as your last play, and you need to keep earning it every single day.

Personal development is very much about growth - Broadening your perspective, challenging your comfort zone, and improving skills on your way to maximizing your potential. But if you think of the very idea of growth, things can’t grow unless something is there in the first place. That’s why I say, if you want it to grow, plant the seed.

Let’s look at it from the lens of a skill. You cannot improve a skill without setting the clear intention to develop it. The intention is the seed. Or how about broadening your perspective. You cannot incorporate new perspectives in your life without exposing yourself to people and resources that give you new ways of thinking. It’s the exposure that is the seed.

But let me take it a step further, and maybe it makes more sense to approach it from a business perspective. You can’t expect your first idea to take off, and you can’t expect to instantly get results because you try one thing. Another way of putting - You can’t trust that if you plant one seed it will grow. So the idea becomes to plant a bunch of seeds in the hopes that one or a few of them will grow.

It’s taking consistent action, in life and business, that allows you to plant more seeds. Your focus should always be on the input, the effort you apply, with faith that the right results will come about from that effort.

If you want it to grow, plant the seed.  

We all know that if we want to make progress on things that are important to us, we need to put in the time and energy. But it doesn’t stop there, because there are ways to optimize that thought so you can do more with your time and more with your energy. Greg McKeown answers the question about how we should be spending our time in his first book “Essentialism”, and now he’s answering the second question about how we should spend our energy in his new book “Effortless”. As for the latter, this is what he had to say.

Greg asks you to evaluate the ROE, the "Return On Effort". He proposes that the same amount of effort can produce different outcomes, and it’s important to identify the ways you’re putting in effort that yield the greatest results.

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I wanted to feature some incredible song lyrics. One of the songs on my morning dance playlist is “You Get What You Give” by New Radicals, which is a song about some kids trying to find their way in life. The song alternates between telling a story and sharing lessons they should keep in mind along the way. You probably recognize the chorus:

You've got the music in you
Don't let go
You've got the music in you
One dance left
This world is gonna pull through
Don't give up
You've got a reason to live
Can't forget
We only get what we give

I love the practical contrast this song provides. It talks about delinquency, amazing times, crippling doubt, and depression. That’s life, plain and simple, but the ultimate advice it gives through all of those emotions is the song title - “You only get what you give.” That which you share with the world will return to you in unexpected and magnified ways.

Be the brightness that lights up other people’s lives, and you’ll find that your life is much much brighter.

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I have been exploring a new and extremely profound philosophy lately. For the last 6+ months (as of this writing), the core affirmation that I’ve been writing down and meditating on is “I am attracting the right possibilities into my life at the right time.” It's kind of a unique affirmation, but there’s one word in it that continues to fascinate me - Possibilities.

After learning more about the Law of Attraction, and the way that the 4th dimensional metaphysical world works, I’ve started to see the value of possibilities. A possibility is something that can happen, and it’s the metaphysical world’s way of communicating with you about the potential of your path. When you become aware that something is a possibility for your life, that’s the 4th dimension tugging you to pursue the possibility you have in mind. Some people say that's your intuition calling you to what is right for you.

But the law of attraction is not enough to get what you want. It’s not only about being aware of the possibilities around you, it’s about igniting them! That’s where the Law of Attraction, that we all know and love must be paired with it’s complimentary force, the law of action. You must exercise that possibility in order for it to be represented in the 3-dimensional world we exist in.

There are no exceptions to this thought, and there are many incredible examples of its work in action. In fact, Ryan Mannion (who is becoming a good friend) just wrote a book called “Reignite Possibilities” touches on people with incredible success stories through the actions they've taken. The best part, not only is it free to download, but it’s tied to a social impact project. When you download your free copy you will contribute one brick toward the building of a school in Cambodia. Grab a copy now at: https://www.amazon.com/Ignite-Possibilities-JB-Owen-ebook/dp/B095J38KNS/ref=nodl_

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I'm not proud of this, but lately I’ve been feeling really sorry for myself. Things changed up at work where I haven’t been entirely happy. I’ve had random technical issues and misunderstandings in conversation that have led to poor outcomes. Out of protection for myself, I started pointing the finger. I started allowing my circumstances to dictate my state of being, going through the motions by not emotionally investing in my work, and soaking in all the things I had to complain about.

Then I started asking myself questions that I ask you every single day. How might my energy be attracting this? How is my perspective affecting the way I’m seeing things? How am I responsible for the way things are going? I realized that I’m choosing to feel sorry for myself, I’m letting situations run my life instead of controlling the situations I have in front of me. And that’s when things started to flip. If I’m in control, what can I do about it? And most importantly, what do I want?

I decided that I don’t want to feel sorry for myself. I don’t want to feel drained, unmotivated, and hopeless. I want to find ways to make the most of this opportunity and extract as much value as I can from it. Upon admitting to all of that, I was able to get more creative about how I relate with my work. I started seeing how I can develop in the ways I want to, and even more powerfully, I realized how great of an opportunity I actually had to accomplish those things.

I chose to shift my perspective. I gained an awareness around how I was thinking and feeling, wanted to make a change, and connected that change to my daily effort. Things aren’t great, but they’re getting better and I’m finding a lot more meaning in what I’m doing. It’s working for me, and if you’re feeling upset or disinterested in something, I encourage you to get real with yourself and figure out what you can do about it to make things better.

This one was more of a diary entry but I thank you for reading it anyway!

I wanted to honor the heart of the Holiday we’re celebrating today, which is Memorial Day. Memorial Day is dedicated to remembering those who died in service of protecting our Freedom in the United States. It’s a time to reflect and see your path and circumstance, and acknowledge the sacrifices made by others to give you the privileges you have today.

Memorial Day recognizes people who made the ultimate sacrifice. There are many empty seats at dinner tables because of the heroism displayed by members of our military. The sad truth is there’s nothing we can do to change their fate, but there is a lot we can do to honor them and what they stood for. I believe the best expression of that is to make the absolute most of the incredible gifts you’ve received because of their sacrifices.

In the spirit of that, I think It’s appropriate to broaden the lens. There are people in your life today who have invested, sacrificed, and struggled for you and your well-being. Parents, teachers, siblings, friends - People have selflessly made decisions at their own expense to support you, and you wouldn’t be who you are today without them.

So my ask of you today, is to acknowledge how others have sacrificed for you, and be grateful for their contribution. Send a text, make a phone call, or do whatever feels right to you to recognize others who have made you a priority. It will mean the world to them.