Guess what? I have bad days. I have days when I don’t feel like getting my workout in. Days when I get caught scrolling on Instagram. Days when I’m not as patient or kind to the people who are important to me. Days when I don’t show up as the best version of myself.

And I know I’m not alone. Everyone has times when they’re less productive, feel less motivated, or for whatever reason aren’t in a good mood.

Instead of feeling guilty that we couldn’t “mindset” our way through it, let’s be real about it. Somedays you just don’t quite have it, and that’s okay. But do you want to know the opportunity? You can make your bad days better.

An unproductive day still involves you getting some good things done, but not everything. You catch yourself scrolling on social media after 20 minutes instead of 2 hours. You choose to go for a walk or stretch instead of blowing off the gym altogether.

In my opinion the greatest evidence of growth is not witnessing how incredible things are when you feel good, but catching yourself from slipping too much when you don’t. It’s about holding yourself to a higher standard.

Making your bad days better is not a matter of will-power. It doesn’t make sense to rely on will-power at the times when you have it the least. The best way to hold yourself to a higher standard is by implementing  personal-performance systems. Systems allow you to get predictable results with less effort because the whole process has been systematized.

So if you want to have more discipline, more consistency, and more productivity even when you don’t feel like it, you need a system that helps you to do it. And the system I’ve created and perfected over the last decade is called the Super Habits System. When you take just 21 days to install this system into your life, you will become unrecognizably more productive and focused on the good days, and way more determined and consistent on your bad days.

Through this 21 day challenge I’ve helped hundreds of people break through their current level to get in the best shape of their lives, get promotions, break bad habits, and really feel like they’re making the most out of life. Click here if you want to be a part of it!

This is the single biggest hack I’ve ever come across in behavior change. It’s timeless and probably the #1 thing experts recommend to do if you want to improve anything about your life.

It’s called the Hawthorne Effect.

Basically, the Hawthorne Effect is a behavioral principle where performance improves when it’s being observed. That’s a lot of fluff so let me put it plainly - The best thing you can do to change anything about your behavior is track it.

If you want to eat healthier, sleep more, or exercise consistently? Track it. Want to be a better spouse, partner, parent, or daughter? Track it.

But here’s a caveat. You need to be actively tracking it! Your watch telling you how many steps you took in a day doesn’t work if you don’t look at it. Tracking how much time you spend on social media doesn’t help you spend less time on the app if you don’t observe your performance. 

If you know me well, you know I’m a huge advocate for this. Tracking is the one thing that has most transformed my life and I have never come across anything that can’t be improved by implementing some form of tracking it.

And here’s the psychology. When you are actively tracking something, you bring a moment of awareness to it. A lot of our bad habits or underperforming happens unconsciously without our choice. Tracking interrupts the unconscious pattern and brings consciousness to it, creating space to reflect on what might have caused it.

Your consciousness enables two things. First is it plants a message into your subconscious so that you become more aware of it moving forward. It makes you less unconscious about it when you’re doing it. And second is it gives you the ability to make better choices. You cannot make a choice without awareness, and often we make the wrong choices simply because we’re not in control of them, and they’re being made without us even realizing it.

Do not underestimate how powerful this is. I’ve seen it work hundreds of times and I know it can work for you. In fact, tracking is the most fundamental component to what I call your Super Habits System.

First you use tracking to create awareness, then you implement the 9 Super Habits to become ridiculously consistent with life-changing health, productivity, and mindset habits, and then you layer on the one question that accelerates everything you want to improve.

If you’re ready to take things to the next level, I run a 21 day challenge to walk you through the 3 step process to installing the Super Habits System for yourself and on the other side of it, you become an unstoppable force in this world!

Want to learn more about it? Click here!

We live in a world that has so much information. There’s so much to know, so much to learn, and so many perspectives to incorporate. For so long we’ve been taught that there’s nothing more important than getting an education, and while that still might be true, there’s an important nuance to it.

Learning is different than acquiring knowledge. 

The difference becomes more obvious when you hear Alex Hormozi’s definition of learning. He says that learning is “when there’s a change in behavior”. When you learn something it means that you took a new action when presented with the same stimulus.

Acquiring knowledge is different. Knowledge is simply about having the right information. But if you don’t use that right information, or apply it in a tangible way, then it doesn’t actually impact your life.

That’s the intention of the information, isn’t it? It’s not just to be able to rehearse good advice but use it to improve our health, time management, self-awareness, emotional control, and relationships.

Given how freely available information is, what we really need to master is the skill of implementation. That’s the differentiator - How successfully can we apply knowledge so that it leads to something real. In fact, this is so much more important that we’re better off investing time applying what we already know rather than trying to know something different. It’s through the implementation of information where learning happens, which is measured by achieving a new result. 

So take a minute to reflect on that. Do you have a way to incorporate what you know into your daily routines and processes? Do you feel like your life changes in meaningful and tangible ways after you finish reading a book, listen to a podcast, or fall short of a goal?

This is why it’s so important to have a high-quality self-improvement operating system. Your operating system is your foundational process for your self growth and if you feel like you’re experiencing a lot and consuming a lot but not actually learning anything, then your current operating system is probably the bottleneck.

When you do upgrade your operating system, all of the knowledge you’ve acquired actually converts into real and tangible improvements in your life. Like a hose with a kink in it, the results in your life are ready to come pouring through once you create an environment that can support it. 

If you want to upgrade your Self Improvement Operating System and install what I call your Super Habits System, click here to unlock the health, productivity, and progress you’ve been working hard for.

Something that no one is above in life is having problems. That’s not to say that there’s something flawed about the system, but rather that the very essence of life is about solving problems.

I don't believe that all problems are the same. Some are very basic, like not having a safe environment to come home to or enough money to put food on the table. And some are more complex, like getting into an argument with a romantic partner.

I define a problem as “an unmet need”. When you label something as a problem it means that it’s not perfectly comfortable in your life. Something is being agitated or irritated, and it’s impacting your well-being. The size of the need determines the size of the irritation and therefore, the size of the problem.

What this means is that we’re naturally motivated to take action in ways that alleviate our problems and address our underlying, unmet needs.

You might notice that this explanation is integrating a bit with Maslow’s Hierarchy Of Needs. Not having money to put food on the table is an unmet need for survival. Getting into an argument with a partner is a reflection of a need for more love and connection.

As we continue to step our way higher up the pyramid, where the “needs” are less significant and the problems are less dire to solve, they create problems all the same.

And then when we get to the top of Maslow’s Hierarchy Of Needs, we find ourselves seeking self-actualization.

What is self-actualization? I’d describe it as a need to be the very best version of ourselves and to maximize our contribution to the world.

This need is insatiable. Complete self-actualization can never be achieved. And it means that we’ll always have an unmet need and therefore, we’ll always have a problem.

So maybe this understanding will help you reframe the way you think about problems. Rather than seeing them as inconveniences in our lives, what if they’re actually stepping stones for our personal evolution? That’s what it’s there for at the top of the Hierarchy Of Needs, so why can’t it be true for every problem you experience no matter the need?

Problems are indications that there’s room for growth, for expansion, for improvement. And if that’s the ultimate purpose of life, then we should try to be thankful for the problems we face no matter the form they take. 

I don’t mean to discredit or minimize the hardship you might be facing from some of the problems in your life, but instead give you a new perspective you can use to approach them differently, and like a video game advance to the next level

Do you remember the fairytale “Goldilocks And the Three Bears”? It’s basically a story about a little girl named Goldilocks on her quest for comfort trying out chairs, porridge, and beds, finally settling on what is 'just right' for her. 

We’re all Goldilocks in our own way looking to find what’s ‘just right’ for us and in every aspect of our lives.

The process of discovering your ‘just right’ starts with the basics. We need to be self-aware of what we want (what our preferences are, how we like it, what feels right to us) and we need to accept ourselves and that preference, despite the criticism, judgment, or difference in opinion we might face.

Now how do we figure that out? First we need to understand the spectrum that’s out there. There are few things in life that are truly black and white - we need to find our shade of gray that’s ‘just right’ for us. We get there through trial and error, and experimentation and feedback, to better understand what we’re looking for. 

Like Goldilocks - She had to eat hot porridge and sit in an uncomfortably hard chair to learn what she liked.

Going beyond the fairytale, what’s equally important to accept is that your preferences can change. What you wanted before could be undesirable now. Your definition of success might change when you start a family. 

But you know what? We should change our minds! What’s ‘just right’ should change. As the world evolves around you, your way of fitting into it must evolve as well.

However, we see it as a weakness to change our mind on something. Almost like we’re giving up or quitting and it causes us to stick with things that are not right for us for too long.

That’s when we come back to the basics - Being self-aware of what you want right now, and accepting of that without concern of what others think. We get to run the experimentation process again with curiosity to figure out what feels ‘just right’ now in a different season of life, with different context.

The main source of disappointment I see in people is they fail to live up to the expectation they have for themselves. But when that expectation was crafted in a certain environment, like working out every day for an hour in your mid-twenties, you’re setting yourself up for failure when you hold yourself to that same standard but now you’re in your mid-30s and have two kids under 5.

Just like Goldilocks, feel it out, see what you want, align with your preferences, and boldly state what you think is ‘just right’ for you. And as long as you believe it, that’s all that matters.

What’s interesting about personal development is it’s both very old and very new at the same time. There are some proven, tried principles that will (as long as we are still human) continue to be true for everyone. But then there’s the constant inflow of new information - studies, science, technologies, etc. - that has helped us explain and expand on those same principles.

Today I want to just simplify it down to the very basics. That’s not to say the tactics and technical details aren’t important, but they become much more valuable when you know exactly what foundation they’re meant to fit into.

Let’s focus on positive behaviors - things you can do that make you healthier, more productive, or help you reach your goals. Everything else comes from the simple understanding that positive behaviors come from knowing what we want to do, having a plan to do it, and then actually doing it.

The goal is to get as much clarity as possible on each so that we know exactly how it’s all going to work. We can use motivational strategies, behavioral design, psychology, gamification, incentivization, or whatever we want to support the behavior.

But again, it needs to be within the foundation and first principles of taking action: Knowing what to do, having a plan to do it, and actually doing it.

This reminds me of the difference between being effective and being efficient. They’re often said in the same breath but there’s an important order of operations. We must first make sure the behavior is effective. This means that it produces the specific outcome we want it to. Then once we have that confidently in place, that’s when we can think about more creative tactics to make it more efficient.

Otherwise, you might be investing a lot of time and energy in making something better at doing the wrong thing.

Again, with this simplified view of behavior, what matters most is that you know what to do, you have a plan to do it, and you actually follow through on doing it. If there’s a particular behavior that comes to mind, use this framework to help inform what you want to focus on to make it more effective, more efficient, and more reliable.

We all encounter difficult moments throughout the day. Times when our patience is being put to the test. Times when we get not so great news that we need to respond to. Times when we just don’t feel like doing it but we know deep down we should. No one is immune to feeling this way as they all come from very human emotions, but some people have a better way of dealing with it than others.

My friend David Williamson gave me what is perhaps the best way to think about it. He said that in those times when we’re feeling angry, tired, frustrated, disappointed, or unmotivated, we need to ask ourselves “what is the victory in the moment”?

It’s brilliant for a few reasons. One is it disrupts your current state of thinking. Our thoughts are simply the questions we ask ourselves and our answers to them. We do that back and forth as a conversation in our mind. What this does is it causes us to ask a new, different, intentional question. But not only that, it’s a question that guides us to bring to mind a high-quality output.

What this also does is leverages the powerful associations we have with the word “victory”. Our entire lives when we think about victories we think about hard-work, dedication, consistency, triumph over obstacles, and accomplishment. So when we introduce the concept of “victory” into our thoughts it immediately shifts our physiology into a more empowered state. This makes us feel different and kicks off a cascade of more positive feelings, completely shifting your emotions.

Then of course, the most important part, when you ask a question the mind wants to answer it. So from the endless possibilities of how you could relate with the present moment, you start to home in on what is the most ideal, best, championship outcome that could come from it. Just bringing this option into your awareness is so crucial because then you can choose it - Rather than be stuck with the options that you’re tired, frustrated, disappointed self was giving you.

So you don’t feel like working out… What’s the victory in the moment?

You are starting to get defensive in a conversation with someone you love… What’s the victory in the moment?

You catch yourself scrolling on social media and feel like you’re falling behind on the things you wanted to get done today… What’s the victory in the moment?

You put so much private  hard work into a project and now it’s time to share it publicly, but you’re scared to do it… What’s the victory in the moment?

Start using this mantra often throughout the day, especially when you’re aware of how you might not be feeling so good, and allow that awareness to pull your behavior in productive and empowering ways that make you proud.

An article came out recently that talked about the value of daydreaming, and I wanted to share the highlights with you. It’s pretty crazy, sometimes we get so caught up in the world in our minds that we rest motionless, visualizing an imaginary world. 

It could be replaying the sequence of an experience you’re trying to remember, generating new insights about a thought that interests you, or going down some “rabbit hole” of interconnected ideas that only make sense to you. When we snap out of it we laugh about where we went in our minds, but if we’re being critical, would rather have stayed focused on our immediate tasks.

The article shares that the daydreaming process is actually extremely important for brain function and is a very healthy thing to do.. The reason why is because daydreaming creates a state of what scientists call “quiet wakefulness”. This brain state has incredible benefits.

First is it’s a form of mindfulness. Mindfulness helps to offset stress and anxiety by deactivating your nervous system, and rather than meditating and getting really quiet, we can use daydreaming to accomplish the same. In fact we often judge ourselves if we can’t stay focused during a meditation, and the suggestion here is that doesn’t compromise the mindfulness benefits you’re receiving. 

Quiet wakefulness also is an optimal learning environment for the brain. When we daydream at the end of the day, it actually helps to encode our memory of it. And beyond that, it is considered to be a creative process that activates the right hemisphere of the brain. This allows us to be more imaginative and inventive in our thinking, and helps us with problem solving challenges. But not only do you get these benefits in the moment while you’re daydreaming, but hours afterwards as well while your brain is still influenced by that “quiet wakefulness” state.

In my personal experience, one of the most productive things I do is I create designated “thinking” time on my calendar. To be honest, I don’t do enough of it. It helps me make plans, rethink strategy, and consider alternatives that I hadn’t before. With this new information about daydreaming, I’m going to try elevating my “thinking time” and let my mind wander just a little bit more and see how it goes!