“a negative mind will never result in a positive light”. Usually, I’m not the one to speak about negativity, because why choose to speak about that when you can speak about positivity? Well, I’m making an exception today because the message at the end is worth it.

Positivity and negativity both respond to the law of attraction. You can think of it as a decision tree where every decision branches off of a starting point. If you choose to think positively then you branch up. If you choose to think negatively then you branch down. Then from that new location you make the same decision, and the branching continues another 5, 10, or 20 times a day.  

What you’ll quickly find is that the product of negative choices is way lower than the product of positive choices, and it speaks to the power your mental state. If you want to live a positive life, you need to make the positive choices consistently by having a positive mindset. Having a positive mindset will help you be at the top of the branching pattern, looking down at the the progress you made rather than at the bottom trying to climb your way up against all odds. For that reason, “A negative mind will never result in a positive life”.

In the age of digital distraction, our attention gets pulled away so quickly and so often. This, often, means that we don’t truly engage in the moment because our brain is trying to do so many things at once, and we start losing quality.  This is an issue I have seen in others and within myself that I would love to address.

In my mind, someone that masters this is Gary Vaynerchuk. Something I admire about Gary is the way that he can take the time to connect with people on an individual basis. And when he does connect with them, they have his undivided attention, which you can tell means the world to everyone he interacts with.

I want to point out a few things that Gary does that will help us all be more invested in everything we do.

1. He is a great active listener.  He gives acknowledging feedback at the end of each thought, helping the speaker to believe that their message was heard. It makes the conversation much more efficient and poignant.
2. He limits technology use around others. Before an interview or meeting, you see him doing his thing on his phone, but then before he starts he puts his phone away and enters the conversation completely.
3. When he is on his phone or busy doing something else, he is not shy to ask someone to repeat themselves. In doing this, you know that he cares about everything you have to say and wants to make sure he doesn’t miss a word.
   

While Gary is criticized for interrupting people and speaking over others in conversation, there is no denying that he is 100% invested!

This message comes from Brian Mazza, the founder of High Performance Lifestyle Training.

“The get it done mentality. Last night my childhood buddy shot me a text - ‘Want to get in 10 miles before the kids wake up?’ I knew I needed to make a decision and choose between the pain of discipline and the pain of regret.  4:30 am never looked so great! Once you start earning your self-respect you will start choosing the path of discipline and enjoy it. Nothing changes if nothing changes.”

Brian Mazza positioned this story in an interesting way. Either way, he was going to experience something negative and was choosing between two evils. If he does the workout, he is up early and setting himself up for a long and exhausting day. If he sleeps in, then he spends the rest of his day justifying the decision and trying to rationalize why it was okay.  

He is in the top .01% when it comes to drive and productivity, which isn’t a fair point of comparison, so let’s create a more relatable example. Do you go through the effort to get groceries and eat healthy, or order take out and rationalize your health? Do you avoid getting involved in that chat thread at work, or get distracted and feel rushed to make up for lost time?

Discipline exists in every decision we make, and it’s important that we choose discipline over regret as often as we can. When you take the easy way out, the only person you’re cheating is yourself.

For a while now, I have been conducting weekly check ins. Every Monday morning, Zach and I get on the phone and catch up about interesting insights we had throughout the week. Then, we reflect on our productivity during the week. If we accomplished the goals we set out to accomplish, and set new goals for the upcoming week that we will hold each other accountable to. Often, we check in with each other during the week and remind them to complete their weekly goals. Needless to say, you don’t want to have to report that you didn’t achieve them.

But, what I realized in one of our more recent calls, is outside of the external accountability of a performance partner, it is really useful just to take the 15 minutes to think through my opinion on how I performed the previous week. The calls force me to slow down and analyze how I spent my time, often from a critical lens, which I have found to be really eye opening and valuable.  

And a week seems to be about the right amount of time for a check-in. It’s long enough to do something big or prove you can build a new habit. I like the concept so much that I now write down my Wins of the Week on my goal sheet to facilitate more of that positive introspection.

So, I’d encourage you to take the time to journal about your week, maybe even at the end of this weekend, to set your goals for the next week and begin this cycle of tests to iterate.

Yes, there is a chance you could fail, but are you are going to focus your energy and attention on potentially failing? The reality is, the inherent part of anything good is that it has it is associated with bad. To add, good is relative to bad, just as happiness is relative to sadness. It’s all a given in life.

Without taking the chance, and putting yourself in a position to fail, you won’t be able to experience joy.  With love comes the fear of heartbreak, and with a promotion comes the fear of sudden underachievement.  Life is a series of contrast. It’s how we respond to these situations that dictates what will happen in our life.

So, step up and swing for the fences, because we only have one at bat in life.  When you let the existence of that joy you are seeking pull stronger than the fear of not reaching your goal, a very interesting thing happens.  The positive outcome becomes more probable, and the joy creeps that much closer, because the energy you exude is the energy you attract.  

Reject fear with action. Don’t let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game.

I want to go back to this weekend and a point that really stood out to me in our third Self Improvement Sit Down with Dan Janetos. As a quick reminder, Dan is an outrageously successful chef, a Guinness world record holder, and an effective entrepreneur in so many different areas. After being on the side of fame and fortune, Dan realized life is about so much more than that. 

"You got to stop and you have to smell the roses, because if you get from zero to billionaire and you have not enjoyed the journey then you missed all of it. There is this back and forth with I want to be rich, I want to be rich, I want to do all of these things, but then you get to rich and fame and you are just exhausted and you are just depressed. Now you are like, how did this happen? All of these wealthy guys are saying it is not about the money, and you are like, how can you say that? Well, it is about the money truthfully. At the end of the day, when your team works hard for you, you thank them and you fell that, because that is the happiness at the end of the day that you deserve".

Happiness takes so many forms, and no matter how much money you have or what reputation or status you carry, we all share the same basic human needs.  And these needs are achievable outside of wealth and outside of status. Enjoy the company of others, be grateful for what you have, and don’t let ambition spoil your satisfaction.

FThis message comes from Gina B, our registered dietician and human nutrition expert. She is a huge advocate for developing a good foundation before worrying about what is on your plate.

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3 deep breaths to build that mind-body connection.  It helps you to slow down, realize what you need, and enjoy the experience.

My mom sent over a quote that really stood out to me not too long ago. The message reminded me to change my approach about Mondays. Instead of giving in to the Monday blues, we can greet the new week with open arms and a fresh mindset. 

The quote is from SC Lourie that states, “We start the week off all wrong. We start the week off thinking of all the things we need to get done, the projects that need completing, the duties that need fulfilling and then we wonder why we are so tired and uninspired by the end of the week. Try something else this time. Before you write down your things to do list, put together a special people to see list and a beautiful moments to have list.  And make your week first in your heart about the people you want to be with, the moments you want to have, the love that you want to give yourself.  Because, darling, at the end of our lives, the tasks we generally got done won’t mean anything at all. It will be about who we are, who we have close by, and the beautiful moments we allowed ourselves to experience. And it should be like that now. Not just at the end, but here, now, as well.  That’s how we minimize our regrets. That’s how we savour being alive".

I don’t know if there’s much more I can say than that. I guess at the core of it, just make time for the people who matter, because that’s what counts.