I heard something on Ed Mylett’s podcast that really stood out to me as something I wanted to explore more. He talked about 3 tiers of influence - Being motivational, inspirational, and aspirational - and the progression people go through as they become more influential.

First is you need to be motivational. This means that you make someone feel a certain way, whether that’s on a stage, in a phone call, or through your actions and lifestyle. Motivation gives someone a motive for action and that extra burst to make a better decision.

Next is inspirational. Beyond making someone feel something emotionally, this takes it one step further and helps them connect to their purpose and bigger reasons for doing things. Inspirational is ‘in spirit’, and the result of being inspired is a more sustaining desire than a temporary injection of motivation.

Then last is aspirational. This is where people look at you and they want to be like you. They look at who you are, what you do, and how you do it, and want the exact same for their life. They look to you and your actions as a standard that they aspire to achieve for themselves. It’s an incredibly humbling acknowledgment, and when you have this much of an influence on someone, you’re blazing the path that they get to walk down next.

I want to qualify this all with one last thought. You don’t need to be a celebrity or influencer or anyone recognizable to be motivational, inspirational, or even aspirational. This is not something that is reserved to be done in public, but it exists in your private life and  relationships too. And if you believe that making one life better is a life worth living, then I encourage you to be the example that motivates, inspires and aspires other people to pursue more in their life.

To bring this all together for you let me ask you a question - Who do you have the most influence on in your life, and what is it you want to show them?

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Have you ever been really dedicated to something, investing a ton of time, effort and attention into it, yet you don’t seem to make progress on it? It’s frustrating because you know you’re doing everything right, but the results just aren’t coming. There’s nothing wrong with your effort, or your capabilities - There’s something else at play that you’re not focused on. Sometimes root problems have very unexpected symptoms.

Your body is an ecosystem. Independent units called cells join together to form tissues. Those tissues link up to create organs that then function collectively as organ systems to conduct your body's natural processes. Our nature is designed to be collaborative in this way. Now imagine if something is stuck or not flowing properly? Of course it will affect things downstream of the issue.

The same happens in your life. Your physical, emotional, spiritual, social, and intellectual bodies all exist as an ecosystem that collectively create you. It’s incredible how intricately it all works, but there’s a problem - The flow is determined by your limiting factor. Another way of putting it is “you’re only as good as your worst player.”

If you want to breakthrough limitations and live up to the expectations you set for yourself, you need to get unblocked. You need to identify the core blockage that is restricting your body’s flow and remove it so that the system can function properly. Of course then there will be another blockage, and another, and another, but at least you’re making progress. And if you stay committed to working through whatever is holding you back, you’ll continue setting new limits for yourself and uncovering what you’re truly capable of.

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It’s generally not a good thing to be picky. It means you’re choosy, difficult to satisfy, and kind of closed minded. Picky people aren’t fun to be around because they come off as smug and even selfish at times. Whether you’re picky about the food you eat, the people you are attracted to, or the way you organize your environment, it can be perceived a certain way by others if it comes off as picky.

But making choices and having preferences is important, and it’s all about how you choose to relate with them. If you have reasons to justify why you like certain things a certain way, then it becomes a standard for you. Standards help you stand up for yourself and how you want things to be in your life. Standards establish what you think you’re worthy of and what you’re willing to tolerate. When you’re picky it comes off as a superficial preference, you want things a certain way ‘just because’, but when you have standards those same preferences become valid because you have experience to back them up. Having standards is a strong display of confidence, and I think we all want to get better at raising the standards we live by.

Do you know what you want in a partner? Good! Do you have an early bedtime that your friends sometimes don’t understand? So what! Embrace your preferences but also know what informs them. Enforce the way you want the world to be around you while also staying open minded to new information that might change your expectations. As long as you continue to view things with a lens of curiosity, you won’t be picky because you aren’t so rooted in your own ways. You’ll have justified, well-intended standards that you live by.

To integrate this idea into your life today I’m going to leave you this question - Where do you think you should have higher standards?

Shoutout to my buddy Case Kenny for the inspiration behind today's thought.

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Earlier this week I reached 4 years of podcasting here on Self Improvement Daily and with millions of downloads and countless relationships established, I’m fortunate to have become an authority on the topic. However, last week I had a conversation with my good friend Chase Chewning and we deconstructed what personal development is meant to be, not what it’s purported to be, and it really broadened my perspective. I realized that I’ve actually misunderstood what personal development actually is and I think maybe you have too.

Personal development is known to be about maximizing your potential, stretching yourself to grow and experience new things. It’s about applying yourself fully to what matters to you and improving your skills and mindsets so that you can find personal success. While I still do believe all of that to be true, we’re missing one fundamental piece. Why? Why maximize your potential? Why do the things that matter to you?

At the end of the day I think it all comes back to happiness, and I don’t know that we connect personal development with being happy. What I described are the building blocks of what have become for me two primary objectives of personal development - Self-awareness and self-acceptance.

First on the self-awareness side, we need to know who we are and what makes us happy. Not what we admire about other people from a distance, not what we are told will make us feel good if we get it. This is your authentic, unbiased, deeply rooted happiness.

Then second is self-acceptance. Once you’ve become aware of who you are and what makes you happy, you need to be at peace with that. We all have an ego that constantly places us relative to others, and we live in a culture that further encourages us to fit into a certain mold. When we remove the judgment we place on ourselves about who we feel we’re supposed to be and accept ourselves for who we are, we feel empowered to lean into the things that make us happy.

Reconciling all of this for me, not much changes. I genuinely believe that being disciplined helps me do the things that make me happy - Building, creating, discovering. Making healthy choices supports my ultimate happiness because I find joy in being proud of the life I’m living. Leaving my comfort zone forces me to grow and develop, which I find fun and exhilarating. This isn’t meant to completely derail the identities you’ve built around personal development but instead add an extra lens to see your decisions through so that you can confirm that you’re serving yourself in the most meaningful ways.

So let’s wrap by reflecting on this simple yet difficult question - What makes you happy?

I wanted to highlight a new friend of mine whose story I heard this weekend, and the reason I want to share it with you is because he is living proof of what’s possible for you. His name is Omar Elattar and he’s the host of The Passionate Few podcast and YouTube channel. 

Omar was in debt, in a job he didn’t like, and in a toxic relationship. When his girlfriend at the time broke up with him he hit a rock bottom but incredibly, he converted that anger and heartbreak into fuel that catapulted him into the next chapter of his life. He simply made the choice to take risks, create opportunity, and prove to himself and others what he was capable of. Years later he has interviewed and become friends with some of the most successful people in the world, and his mission is to inspire people like you that you can do it too. I say it a little differently but the message is similar - Yes you can!

What’s interesting about the word “passion” is it has unexpected origins. It’s etymology means ‘to suffer’, and when we think about passion we often see it in a more empowering and positive light. But was was clear in Omar’s story is that his passion was inspired by his personal suffering, and I think that’s true for a lot of people. Danette May calls it “turning your mess into your message”.

To be passionate is to be filled with emotion, to care deeply about what you’re experiencing, and I think as a collective it’s something we’re sorely missing. Many people can’t be bothered to care. They’re afraid of what they’ll discover, how they’ll be perceived, and what changes it might bring to their life. Through his work Omar encourages you to take yourself seriously, believe in yourself and what you’re capable of, and to live in a way that fulfills you because you’re giving it your all and not holding back! I know you are one of the passionate few.

To wrap this up let’s tap into this opportunity for you - What’s one things you've major experienced and how has that shaped what you’re most passionate about?

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Life is not easy. Inevitably you will encounter times that challenge you. In learning how to navigate situations that aren’t ideal, and managing your emotional state, you’ll be able to live the fulfilling and enthusiastic life you desire. With that in mind I want to illuminate a distinction between stress and overwhelm. While both involve feeling a sense anxiety and apprehension, they actually take subtly different forms.

First, stress is a normal physiological response. It’s our sympathetic nervous system getting activated to protect us. It’s the fight or flight response. Unfortunately that response isn’t activated only when exposed to physical threats, which was the intention, but also psychological, spiritual, and social threats as well. The overactivation of our stress response and having elevated levels of cortisol in our blood is actually responsible for many health issues. So managing stress is incredibly important, and at the end of the day, experiencing stress is natural but it is often out of place.

Overwhelm is an extension of stress. With overwhelm you’re feeling such significant levels of anxiety that it paralyzes you. Overwhelm is characterized by being so occupied with your circumstances, emotions, and realities that you cannot take action. The issue here is it creates a negative psychological loop that makes you more and more concerned, adding on more stress and anxiety, because you’re aware that you aren’t doing anything to relieve the situation. In that way it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy and a negative spiral.

To manage overwhelm you need to do something counterintuitive. Just stop. Breathe slow, calm the sympathetic nervous system, and don’t make yourself do anything. In this case the way out is to wait it out. Give yourself time and space to let the overwhelm not have such a strong hold over you. After recalibrating you will regain the ability to take action in ways that reduce the stress you’re feeling.

It’s not easy but it is doable. To reflect on this and be more self-aware today ask yourself this question - What stresses me out more often than it should?

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You’ve probably heard the expression “It’s better to ask for forgiveness than permission” before, but I think the most fundamental element of it isn’t completely understood. Not only that, but I think once we become aware of this underlying principle it can easily translate into many other areas of life.

The idea behind asking for forgiveness is that you’Ve committed to doing something. You’ve decided that it’s important to you, it’s the right decision, and despite the potential for consequences you want to move forward with it. What’s powerful about this is that the conviction and certainty you have about your next steps actually helps for that reality to materialize in your life.

The instant something comes to mind as an idea, or something that could be a part of your future, it becomes a possibility. When you commit to pursuing that possibility it then becomes a probability. By asking for forgiveness not only are you taking action to convert the possibility into a probability, but you’re increasing the likelihood that it will happen because you’re pursuing it without restriction.

With that understanding, where else can this concept apply? It’s saying things like “Thank you in advance” or “When I write my book…” which communicates certainty and an expectancy about the future. Your confidence about what will be in the future literally changes the odds of the present. And with better odds, you’re that much more likely to create the future you’re dreaming of.

With that in mind let’s integrate this into your life today - What are you committed to making happen? Say it to yourself as if there’s no doubt about it.

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I am a very regimented and organized person (if you couldn't already tell). I keep a tight schedule and I log / track my activity everyday. As part of that process I have very predictable morning and evening routines. To get into a good rhythm for the day it’s important that I incorporate my "bookends" to make sure I complete my routines. 

The reason this is top of mind is because last week I had a flight that was at 5:25 in the morning. Between ordering a Lyft, get to the airport, get through security, and make it to the gate on time I had a 3:15am wake up call. My routines are important but they’re not 3:30am important, at least they weren’t in this case. As disciplined as I am I’m not perfect! But what I did do is I made plans to complete my morning routine at the airport during my layover. So if you saw someone at Denver airport dancing to music in his ears, rolling around on the ground doing stretches, and making odd postures with his eyes closed as part of a meditation, that was me! While it didn’t look like it normally does, I got it done because it’s a priority for me.

I share this all for two reasons: 1) You are exponentially more likely to do something if you have allocated the time to do it. 9 times out of 10 the first hour of my day is reserved exclusively for my morning routine. I plan when I wake up and what else I’m doing for the day around the time I’ve set aside for my morning routine. You can be way more consistent with the things that are important to you if you decide in advance what you’re doing and when you’re doing it.

2) Life can be unpredictable and you’re going to need to figure things out on the fly. If you know what your priorities are then they can stay top of mind so that when opportunities arise, you can get it done. For example I didn’t plan to do the stretching. But then I had some extra time during the layover so I added it! And I’m really glad I did.

Enough about me, let’s make this about you - What’s the one thing you must do every day that you know is best for your health and sanity?

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