Going From Where You Are To Where You Want To Be
Advancing in our lives is a constant game of going from where we are to where we want to be. Another way of putting this is we have the current reality we are living in the present moment, we have a future reality that we feel inspired to have instead, and we want to bridge the gap in between the two in order to attain that new future reality.
It’s going from overweight to being in the best shape of our lives. From wasting too much time on social media to having indistractable daily focus. From growing apart from a friend or partner to creating extraordinary levels of intimacy and love. From having a bold idea you’re too scared to take action on to standing on the mountain top announcing it to the world.
While it might be a simple concept to understand, when it actually comes to achieving our goals and covering the distance between our current and future reality, there are a lot of things that get in the way like self-doubt, uncertainty, distractions, confusion, limiting beliefs and imposter syndrome…
But there are also a lot of ways to do it once you understand all of the options, resources, and approaches you can take to it. Let’s use the metaphor of driving from LA to New York as an example of where you are and where you want to go.
How might you navigate that journey?
Well first you might want the specific address of where exactly in New York you’re going to.
You might consider preparing yourself and studying the highway systems that connect the two cities, and the milestones along the way.
You might want to use tools like Google Maps to help you stay on track.
You might ask someone else who’s done it before for their advice to see if they can share insight into making your trip smoother and avoid making some mistakes.
And then when you’re on the road, you’ll rely on the feedback from signs reflecting back on the path you’ve already taken to help guide you forward.
Or maybe even you’ve been on this road before and your memory helps to make things more familiar to you.
Why do I share all of this? It’s because it’s the same raw materials will help you get anywhere.
Knowing the exact destination is having a clearly defined goal.
Orienting yourself on the highway systems is knowing the overall plan moving forward.
Google Maps is a tool that helps you stay on track.
Asking for advice from others helps you avoid making common mistakes.
And signs on the road give you feedback and confirmation you’re making progress.
Plain and simple, the more of these things you have in place, the more likely you are to get where you want to go, no matter what the destination is.
Now like driving in a car, it’s very important that we know what’s in our blindspot. So let’s do a quick audit. Do you have clearly defined goals and a solid plan to achieve them? Have you talked to other people who’ve achieved something similar to what you want to achieve to ask them for advice? Do you have tools in place to get feedback on how things are going?
Because if you don’t, then it’s not surprising how you might get lost, or not have the confidence to even take the trip in the first place. And if that future reality is important to you, where you have the life, health, and career that makes you feel alive and purposeful, it’s a disservice to not have these basic elements in place.
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