You Can Feel Authenticity

Last week I was at Retreat in Maine and I met many incredible people, but one person who stood out from the rest is my new friend named Tarzan. Not only does she have one of the coolest names ever, but her spirit and authenticity were palpable.

On the first evening, in front of a room that was largely full of strangers, Tarzan made an announcement that she he was leading a Song Circle that evening. But it wasn’t just that she was sharing vision or instructions, she led by sharing her limited experience with it. She said something along the lines of:

“I’ve only been a part of one song circle before, so obviously this is going to be my first time leading one. It was deeply impactful for me and it’s something I want to do more of. I’d love for you to be a part of it but just know that it’s not going to perfect - it’s going to be messy. If you’re open to trying something new and being patient as we figure it out along the way, the circle starts at 8.”

The way she delivered it was powerful. It was authentic. She didn’t try to act like she had all the answers or that she was something she’s not… Her vulnerability made her more relatable. Her willingness to imperfectly lead made her appear more confident. And her honest invitation was magnetic.

You can feel authenticity and throughout the week, at every opportunity, Tarzan had a special purity to her. And it made me think, what times do I not show up authentically? When am I trying to appear more polished, or like I have it more figured out than I actually do? 

I realized, we all do that. It’s a means for protection and an armor we wear. But when we let our guard down and let other see us for who we are - weaknesses, shortcomings, mistakes, and areas of inexperience - we become more approachable and enable a deeper connection.