We live in a world that is constantly in motion. The physics of our existence involves dynamic equilibriums rather than static states, and the vitality of our bodies require constant circulation of blood and other fluids. Similarly in the things we experience things are constantly moving, but there are two schools of thought that explain how we permit this motion - Flow and force.
The difference is clear in this metaphor. Think of a river with a dam. Basically a dam is in place to prevent the water from going where it’s intended to. If you were to lift the dam, that’s flow. It’s the natural path that something wants to take and it happens with very little energy or effort. When the dam stays up, it creates force. There’s an energy and momentum associated with meeting resistance to the natural flow, but with enough force it can overcome it.
We must become very aware of when we’re experiencing dams in our life. Culture has taught us to grind it out and work hard, using force to break down the dam. That works in certain occasions, pressing to meet deadlines, hustling to open doors (and there’s definitely a time and place for it), but it can only be relied on in short bouts because it’s unsustainable. An appropriate application is how force can be used to build the infrastructure required so that everything flows from then on out. You can be effortful to invest in building the system that produces ongoing, easy results.
Sometimes things just seem harder to do than they should be, and that’s for a reason. It’s often a sign that there’s a more natural way to go or a better path to take. Sometimes we need to be more open-minded to things being different and less critical when things don’t go according to plan. There’s an intuition to knowing what’s flowing and what’s not.
In the metaphor of the river there are two things you can do to create flow. You can be patient and wait to see if a new stream emerges from the blocked river, or you can permit flow by opening the dam. When it comes to more flow in your life I can provide you the latter. I can help you get unblocked and open the protective dams you’ve put in place without even knowing it. I’d love the opportunity to walk you through it in a recorded, 10 minute, guided self-reflection exercise.
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One step at a time, we can get you to live what you're capable of! This reflection exercise might be the first step that unlocks it all, I encourage you to check it out.