We live in such a comparison based culture and I’m guilty of it like everyone. We seek to evaluate ourselves in relation to those around us. And what this does is it creates a competitive undertone in everything we do, which yes, is effective in a capitalistic society, but it has an unfortunate consequence when it comes to our self worth. We constantly position ourselves relative to others just to see how we measure up, so that we can be more secure about our relative placement.
Which brings me back to the core thought - Many people view “winning” as coming in first. Logically what that means is that you can only succeed when you beat others, when your performance is deemed to be better than others, and it creates this inferiority-superiority complex. But we need to realize that this is all motivated by the ego, our eternal desire to make everything about ourselves, and it greatly affects the way we relate to others.
If you can reject your ego and overcome the need to compare yourself, you’ll see winning for what it truly is - Self-mastery and personal progress. Not the competitive mess society has crafted it to be. Winning isn’t reserved for only one person. Winning is abundant! We all can win at the same time. In fact, one person winning invites the opportunity for more people to win, cascading and compounding in a contagious way.
I know I’m getting ahead of myself that’s down the road, but let’s start at the beginning with our awareness. “Winning doesn’t always mean being first.”