What Is The Most Loving Thing To Do?

Here’s a really simple question to ask when you’re unsure what to do… You feel upset or wronged by someone else… You notice someone struggling and you want to support them… You fail to meet your own expectations and disappoint yourself… Basically any time in every moment:

What is the most loving thing to do?

You’ve probably heard that there are two energies in the world: Love and fear. All other things branch off of these two directions, one that creates more wholeness and the other that creates more separation. People disagree on many things, and we should, but the one thing we all can agree on is that we want to see more love in the world.

Your influence on the world is dictated by your actions. So at any given moment, what are you choosing to contribute? That’s where this question comes in. You can use it as a prompt-generator to figure out how you want to show up or as a filter that adds perspective to what you’re already considering.

When someone steals from you, what’s the most loving thing to do? It’s not to try and get even, but to forgive them and pray for their happiness and wholeness. 

When someone keeps making the same mistakes, and maybe even goes against your guidance, what’s the most loving thing to do? It’s not to shame them and make them feel worse than they already do. It’s to hold them accountable in a way that demonstrates your unwavering support and belief in them.

When you set a goal and fall short, what’s the most loving thing to do? It’s not to criticize yourself and convince yourself that you're the worst, but to accept the consequences, learn from it, and figure out what you need to try again.

You’d be hard-pressed to find an instance where the loving thing to do wasn’t the right thing to do. That’s not to say that you can’t hurt or harm people by doing the loving thing. You can get that part wrong. But the right thing to do is always show up with the intention to love, and act in alignment with that as best as you can. Your ability to know what to do will always be limited by your awareness.

My challenge to you is to ask yourself this question once in the next week. In a time where you’re noticing a more emotional response coming out, or in a moment where you’re feeling fear or indirectly threatened by a situation, give it a try.

Who knows where the most loving thing to do might take you?

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