I want to share with you a major realization that completely changed my perspective on our human capabilities for love.
I used to be the type of person that was very protective about my emotions and commitment to others. I would reserve saying “I love you” only for people that in my opinion had earned it. I wasn’t confident being vulnerable about how important someone was in my life, and making sure they knew how much they meant to me. This was true for all types of relationships - Romantic, family, and friends.
But then I started observing people I really admire and saw how they interacted with others, and I chose to begin loving everyone. I realized that everyone is worthy of my love, meaning everyone deserves my compassion. I was hesitant to be so open about sharing my emotions for the logical reason - How can you possibly love people you don’t know that well, or even know at all? I wrestled that for a while until I realized this.
If people can hate for no reason, then we absolutely can love for no reason.
How we look at people is our choice, and we can set a new standard for ourselves that defaults to having love for others. And I’m not talking about being polyamorous, I mean that you can genuinely want the best for and care for the well being of everyone. There is more than enough in this world, including the love that you have to offer, and your love is one of the most powerful forces you have to create a collective sense of belonging, purpose, and fulfillment.