Theoretically, doing the right thing is always the right thing. However, we need to be aware of the assumption built into this, that we all share the same sense of right and wrong. We can all agree that is not true.
When evaluating this I always try to go back to intentions. In fact, intentions are everything to me. If someone does something that negatively affects me but they didn’t mean to, I can’t find myself being upset by it. Alternatively if someone helps me out, but do so as a way of getting something for themselves, I am good at seeing through the fluff and calling it what it is.
The reality is, determining what the “right thing” is all comes back to intentions. If you believe that you are doing the right things for the right reasons, then that’s something that I support and you should lean into. At the end of the day we are all meant to live the life that is uniquely ours, and we all have our own measures of what is good and what is evil. We each need to understand, and more importantly, be honest with ourselves when we are deciding how we feel about our own choices and behavior.
But the core takeaway from this convoluted, complicated, and subjective mess: We will find the most fulfillment and joy living the life that best aligns with our values and intentions. Do the things that make you proud when you look in the mirror, whatever those “right things” might be for you.