"Write your story and make it happen."
So much of life is the story we tell about it. There’s a story behind a past experience and how we relate with it in the present. There’s a story about who we are, what we’re capable of, and the details we’re including that either hold us back or propel us forward. There’s a story you tell about your perceived level of success, or lack thereof.
All a story does is it creates meaning. Our life has a certain set of facts. The story becomes the way we relate with those facts and extract meaning from it. Let’s say for example you get in a car crash. One story is that it’s a major inconvenience and hassle, working with insurance and not having transportation for a few days as your car gets repaired. Another story is feeling like you have a second chance at life, that you’re being protected and destined for something.
Two stories, very different meanings, and even more different implications around how that impacts you moving forward.
I recently came across a quote that I really like that relates to this concept. It goes “Don’t write your story about what happened, write your story and make it happen.”
Read that again: “Don’t write your story about what happened, write your story and make it happen.”
The future is undefined and uncertain. We’ve all had huge things happen to us where life has become permanently different on a moment's notice. We hold that power in every moment of every day. Seriously. But we have fears, doubts, and insecurities that keep us from dreaming as big as we want to.
If we don’t dictate the direction of our future, something else will. Either way tomorrow will happen and it can be by your design or by something else. Just like you can look back and choose a new more empowering story, you can look forward and pursue a new and better story as well.
Writing your story about what happened is the reactive way to live. It’s your story still but it’s not the one you’d most want to tell. Writing your story and making it happen is a proactive way to go out and chase the footsteps you want to leave behind.
Embedded in the quote is something important - a statement of commitment. You’ve written your story. It’s already decided. Now it’s up to you to be accountable to it, show up for it, and do the things required to make it happen.
If you want your story to be one that is healthier, more bold and courageous, and full of deep and meaningful work and relationships, you need to step up your self-improvement game. And the fastest and most effective way to do that is to register for the Super Habits System.