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September 18, 2020

Make A Specific Ask

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Want to hear a well-known truth? People can’t read your mind. And why is that important to know? As clearly as something might be in your mind, it is based on information that isn’t available to others. But understanding that there’s a gap between what exists in your brain and what others know is the first step to overcoming it. The clearest way to get someone to do what you want them to do is to make as specific of an ask as possible. By stating exactly what you want, and providing the context and emotion around it, you are more likely to get what you are looking for.

Let me go through a few examples in different environments to conceptualize this. You and your partner are making Holiday plans. You mentioned that Christmas was an important holiday to be with your family, but did so 6 months ago. When the plans are being made it is important to ask for it again specifically in the moment rather than rely on the past communication to come to the resolution you want. In business, when you make a pitch, don’t leave the call to action open to interpretation. State exactly what action you want the other person to take to move the deal forward. And with your spirituality, ask the universe as narrowly as possible for what you want to manifest. Changing the world in a massive way, and changing the world for the better in a massive way are two very different things, and the extra specificity is crucial. 

Making a specific ask requires vulnerability, because you’re stating things exactly how you want them. But this level of transparency is important so that others can interact with you in a perfectly aligned way.

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