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March 4, 2024

If You Don't Know What You Want...

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One of the most important questions to ask yourself in your self-improvement is “What do I want?”.

When you know what you want you can begin to strategize on what you need to do to get there. Knowing what you want is a North Star that you can orient your life around and make sure that your daily decisions are in alignment with it.

But there’s a problem… What if you don’t know what you want?

In your career, what if you don't know what you want to do for work?

In your personal time, what if you don’t know what hobbies and interests to try?

In your relationships, what if you don’t know who you want to spend more time with?

If you connect with any of those things, it’s totally normal and common. It’s hard to know what we want.

To take some pressure off… Remember the reason why knowing what you want is so important - It’s because knowing what you want can help you figure out what you need to do next. 

That is what’s actually most important. Knowing what you want is just the first step to knowing what you want to do next.

So if you’re feeling lost, misguided, or unsure about where you’re headed, you don’t need to think further down the line than what’s immediately in front of you. This means the more appropriate question to ask yourself is, “What do I want to do next?”

The reason this takes pressure off is because you don’t feel like you need to get it perfectly right. The consequences of being wrong aren’t so severe because the impacts of it are momentary. But what it does is it gets you into action and once you take a few steps further down the path, you have better insight into what you want which will help guide you into what to do next.

Here’s a perfect personal example: Getting started in my coaching business, I didn’t know what I wanted. But I knew what I wanted next, which was to try out different programming options and see what worked. So I took action, tried out different variations, and with this feedback I discovered my preferences and have steered my business in a way that feels more aligned with what I want. 

And then next, having arrived at the Group Coaching model that feels right, I’ve been able to understand the landscape of my work and have a new plan to maximize my impact on the world, and I feel more on fire about it than ever!

All of that started with little direction, but the experience of doing it gave me direction and helped me arrive at being more confident about knowing what I want.

Whether it be about a major life decision or having self-control in a trying moment, ask yourself this question: “What do I want to do next?” and let that carry you in the right direction, even though you don’t fully know where you’re headed. 

If you don’t know where to start but you know you want to be healthier, more confident and disciplined, and become the person that’s capable of setting bigger goals and achieving them - It’s not too late to sign up for the 21 Day Super Habits Challenge that starts today.

All you need to do is take the first step by registering NOW!

Honestly, time and again I see how just 3 weeks of this work completely transforms people’s lives and it can do the same for you.

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