"Your value doesn't decrease based on someone else's inability to see your work."
Everything in life comes back to value. You teach someone a lesson, that’s value shared. You do an errand for someone, that’s value added. Even when you pay for a coffee, that’s value exchanged, because money is just potential value. The difficult part is, value is subjective and it gets confusing when we try to use it to measure and compare things directly.
I wanted to hit you with Zig Ziglar’s quote that speaks to this problem. “Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone else’s inability to see your worth”.
Now think about that. Just because someone sees something differently does not mean you need to adjust the way you perceive yourself. Who knows why that judgment might be different. It could be because you have different points of reference, varying experiences, or incongruent expectations. In fact, no two people see things the same, so there’s always going to be a conflict. But speaking to the problem at hand here, this new found information should not make you less confident in the value you offer.
Do you know why? Because we approach life from our own lens, with our own points of reference, our own experiences, built out of our own expectations. It’s not practical to think that someone else knows how much value you add through your life because they didn’t live it! But you did, and that’s worth everything.
Besides, What if the opposite was true? What if someone said that you were worth more than you believed to be true? You’d probably resort to your own interpretation, because they don’t see the full picture. Well, that’s true on the negative feedback side, and it shouldn’t be any different.
“Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone else’s inability to see your worth”.