Teach People How To Treat You
Something that is true for just about everything in your life is it starts with you. Everything involves you, everything affects you, and everything is influenced by you. This concept takes many faces but the one I want to zoom in on today is how other people treat you.
You might think that the way people treat you is out of your control because the actions they take are ultimately their choice. But we give ourselves too much credit for what we can do and neglect to admit how influenced by our environment. Therein lies the opportunity - You can shape your social environment. If you want people to treat you better, you need to show them how you should be treated.
Let’s say that you’re often taken advantage of. This is a reflection on both the people you choose to surround yourself with and the things you tolerate about other people. When you stand up for yourself and start demonstrating how you deserve to be treated, you’ll find that people start treating you better. This involves being more assertive and speaking up when you feel like something is wrong. It involves initiating confrontation to defend yourself. An expression that really resonates with me is “You can’t guarantee that you get what you wish for, but you certainly will get what you’re willing to tolerate.”
Or let’s say people don’t take you seriously. Give them a reason to take you seriously by taking yourself seriously - Prioritizing your health, following through on the things you say you're going to do, persevering through adversity. It all leaves a subtle impression on others that shapes the way they view you and in that way, how they choose to interact with you.
You need to teach other people how to treat you by first getting clear on how you want to be treated. Then once you've identified that, it’s a matter of enforcing that standard by calling out other people’s actions and leading by example with your own.
In order for this to create an immediate change in your life today, you can gain awareness on the topic by asking yourself this question - How are you being treated unfairly and what can you do about it?
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