How To Get What You Want Or Better

Years ago I heard David Meltzer say “The universe doesn’t make mistakes. It only gives you what you want or better.” It’s a deep lesson where when we have faith that the world is conspiring in our favor at all times, even when we don’t have the awareness to know how, we are being divinely guided exactly where we’re meant to go.

Of course this is all easier said than done… And I’m still in the process of understanding it. It’s hard to believe that the gripping pain of heartbreak is actually what’s best for you. It’s not easy to convince someone that they didn’t get the job they wanted, or land that big deal, because there’s something else that’s better and more aligned in store.

It’s one thing to say “Everything happens for a reason” and another to trust it when it’s being put to the test.

I’ve personally come a long way with it, with much more road to travel. And while I’ll keep walking the path, last week a new understanding came to me in a conversation with a friend. While I’m learning to accept that this is true, I’m now beginning to wonder how. What’s the mechanism behind getting what you want or better?

My new, unpolished answer to that is this:

In order for the universe to give you what you want or better, you must aggressively pursue what you want.

The possibility has been planted in your mind. It’s attractive to you. What you 'want' is what you believe is the ultimate version of the life you want to create based on the limited awareness you have. If you knew better, then that would become what you want!

And that’s the tricky part about this. You can’t pursue better than what you want, you can only pursue what you want and trust that if it doesn’t happen, then ‘better’ happened instead.

But here’s the thing. We’re afraid to pursue what we want. We don’t want to look stupid talking a big game, taking ourselves seriously, trying our hardest… Only to disappoint ourselves and others when we fail.

And here’s the lesson: It’s only by taking the risk and going for it, by trying to make what we want a reality, that we give the universe the ability to deliver something better. Pursuing what we want is the training ground that unlocks better within us, puts us in a new space where better can reveal itself, or both. What we want is the only thing we have to work with, so that’s where we need to start.

This is also easier said than done, but if you really want to live an extraordinary life and make an extraordinary impact, isn’t it worth a shot?

That’s why I’m about to get aggressive in really going for what I want, doing everything I can to make it happen, with faith that if it doesn’t work out then I opened the door to somewhere better instead.

If you’ve thought for a while that it’s time to get more consistent, dial in your health, be more organized or structured, have better habits and routines, raise your standards and be more accountable… then that’s what you want. And that’s exactly what I’ve dedicated my career to helping you with in the 21 Day Super Habits Challenge. If you’re ready to become your most disciplined, consistent, high-performing self… Let me show you how!