Being Less Judgmental
The standard definition of judgment is far different than the real association we have with it as people. It is intended to be an unbiased evaluation of the way things are, but our egoistic minds have taken that and used it as a tool to self-soothe, which often leads to negative interpretations.
When we’re being judgmental we’re looking for criticism and fault. This happens because we want to validate our belief system, which reinforces the importance of the values we hold. This is a mechanism that is intended to make ourselves feel better about who ere, but what’s interesting is that it implies that we have pain or doubts that need to be comforted.
Your judgment is a projection of your own insecurities. What you see in others is simply a mirror of what you consciously or subconsciously see in yourself. And a lot of our behavior is driven by this mission to accommodate for the areas in our lives that feel like they’re out of alignment, or not enough.
So how can you be less judgmental? Stop judging yourself. Forgive yourself for wrongdoings. Recognize your own biases. Face-off with your insecurities and doubts. After gaining clarity within yourself, your relationship with those concepts will change, and the way you see those qualities in others will change.
The reason I know is because I’m becoming aware of certain negative thought patterns I have about others and their choices, that originate from my own insecurities. So I’m going to work on those, it’ll get better, and I encourage you to do the same!